Preventing Youth Suicide -- Tips for parents and educators.

  • Suicide is the third leading cause of death among youth between 10 and 19 years of age. However, suicide is preventable. Youth who are contemplating suicide frequently give warning signs of their distress. Parents, teachers, and friends are in a key position to pick up on these signs and get help. Most important is to never take these warning signs lightly or promise to keep them secret. When all adults and students in the school community are committed to making suicide prevention a priority—and are empowered to take the correct actions—we can help youth before they engage in behavior with irreversible consequences.

    Suicide Risk Factors

    Certain characteristics are associated with increased suicide risk.  These include:

    • Mental illness including depression, conduct disorders, and substance abuse.
    • Family stress/dysfunction.
    • Environmental risks, including presence of a firearm in the home.
    • Situational crises (i.e., traumatic death of a loved one, physical or sexual abuse, family violence, etc.).

    Suicide Warning Signs

    Many suicidal youth demonstrate observable behaviors that signal their suicidal thinking.  These include:

    • Suicidal threats in the form of direct and indirect statements.
    • Suicide notes and plans.
    • Prior suicidal behavior.
    • Making final arrangements (e.g., making funeral arrangements, writing a will, giving away prized possessions).
    • Preoccupation with death.
    • Changes in behavior, appearance, thoughts and/or feelings.

    Resiliency Factors

    The presence of resiliency factors can lessen the potential of risk factors to lead to suicidal ideation and behaviors.  Once a child or adolescent is considered at risk, schools, families, and friends should work to build these factors in and around the youth. These include:

    • Family support and cohesion, including good communication.
    • Peer support and close social networks.
    • School, family and community connectedness.
    • Cultural or faith beliefs that strengthen parent/child relations.
    • Adaptive coping and problem-solving skills, including conflict-resolution.
    • General life satisfaction, good self-esteem, sense of purpose.
    • Refusal skills to avoid risky behavior.
    • Parent monitoring of social media, computer and cell phone use.

    This resource from the American Psychological Association provides an overview of ways to build resilience in children aged preschool through high school. 

    Resilience Guide for Parents and Teachers (pdf) 

    What to Do

    Youth who feel suicidal are not likely to seek help directly; however, parents, school personnel, and peers can recognize the warning signs and take immediate action to keep the youth safe. When a youth gives signs that they may be considering suicide, the following actions should be taken:

    • Remain calm.
    • Ask the youth directly if he or she is thinking about suicide.
    • Focus on your concern for their well-being and avoid being accusatory.
    • Listen.
    • Reassure them that there is help and they will not feel like this forever.
    • Do not judge.
    • Provide constant supervision. Do not leave the youth alone.
    • Remove means for self-harm.
    • Get help: Peers should not agree to keep the suicidal thoughts a secret and instead should tell an adult, such as a parent, teacher, counselor or school mental health worker. Parents should seek help from school or community mental health resources as soon as possible. School staff should take the student to the designated school mental health professional or administrator.
      Source: National Association of School Psychologists

    If you feel that someone is in imminent danger, please call 911 immediately.

    Please contact your child's school for mental health resources available on-site.

    Suicide Prevention in CCSD

    In the Cherry Creek School District, we approach suicide prevention comprehensively through a broad range of initiatives and programs that serve to build resilience, teach students social-emotional skills, develop the whole child and create a safe and supportive learning environment.   Examples include Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports (PBIS), Bullying Prevention, Second Step and mindfulness and wellness strategies.  

    At the secondary level, our most direct suicide prevention programming is Signs of Suicide (SOS), which is implemented in our middle and high schools. Research indicates that youth are more likely to turn to peers than adults when in crisis. The SOS program works on a model of peer-to-peer intervention. By training students to recognize the signs of depression and suicidality, and by empowering them to intervene when confronted with a friend who is exhibiting these symptoms, SOS capitalizes on an important social-emotional aspect of this developmental period.  For students, the program goals are to:

    • Help youth understand that depression is a treatable illness,
    • Educate youth that suicide is not a normal response to stress, but rather a preventable tragedy that often occurs as a result of untreated depression.
    • At the high school level, inform youth of the risks associated with alcohol use to cope with feelings.
    • Increase help-seeking by providing students with specific action steps to take if they are concerned about themselves or others and identifying resources available to them. The main help-seeking message is ACT:
      Acknowledge that you are seeing signs of depression and/or suicide and that it is serious,
      Care enough to let your friend know that you care about him/her and that you are concerned that he/she needs help,
      Tell a trusted adult, either with your friend or on his/her behalf.
    • Encourage students and their parents to engage in a discussion about these issues.


    Preventing Youth Suicide -- Tips for parents and educators (pdf)

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

    We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals.

Last Modified on September 3, 2019